Monday, October 31, 2011

Happy leaving day!

It's been a year...

...and what a great one!

Monday, October 17, 2011

Should I Leave? (2)

Since the most read post on the blog is "Should I Leave?", and many of you turn to me for should-I-or-shouldn't-I-leave advice, here's a follow up:

Should I leave?
The answer—9 times out of 10—is yes...

In 9 times out of 10: you are in the business because of family pressure or guilt.
In 9 times out of 10: working in the business makes you miserable.
In 9 times out of 10: you feel unappreciated and unfulfilled.
In 9 times out of 10: you know it's not your place.
And, In 9 times out of 10: you didn't stumble across this blog by chance...

Leaving the business is one of the best ways I know to learn who you really are. To make your own decisions. To follow your heart and live your life the way you want to.

If you are still on the fence on this, you better decide. The worst thing you can do is sit on the fence undecided. If you sit there for too long, at some point it will bring on a wave of self-flagellation.

Been there, done that. Better off deciding now.

For me, as you've read here, leaving was the best decision I have ever made and I haven't looked back.

In 9 times out of 10, every bone in your body is telling you to.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Saturday, October 1, 2011

What do people think of you?

Answer: It's not what you think they are thinking!

People/the crowd/the customer/the audience have their own ideas of who or what your are. 99.99% of the time they are not aligned with your self-image.

So, butterflies-in-your-belly or not, get up, do your thing and look people in the eye.

It'll work.

The Little Voice That Could

Making the decision to leave is not easy. It's physically exhausting and mentally painful. It takes a toll on everything and everyone around you. You are making the decision to walkout on someone close, (possibly) destroying their dreams for the future.

It's tough.

The loud voices in your head aren't helping much either, doing all they can to foil your plans. Strumming on your emotional cords, filling your thoughts with the overpowering noise of guilt: "How selfish can you be?! A son shouldn't behave this way to his father. You're leaving after all he did for you?! Shame on you!!". Oh, the guilt...

But under all that noise there's a little voice. A voice that is a lot less loud but strong enough to push you forward, making sure you stay true to yourself. That little voice—your own self-grown version of The Little Engine That Could—will keep you sane. It will push you forward through all the pain and hardship keeping you focused on your goal.

Hang on to that voice. It will remind you why you started this in the first place. It will keep the guilt at bay... And when it's all over and done with, it will help you make amends.